Interesting “Get your shit together Thursday” this week.
Ever get that situation where you are already grown up, gone to college, or trying to find yourself, and you have family nagging the crap out of you to do something with your life?
Or maybe you have a father, or a mother, who wants you to be something in their frame of mind, and totally devoid of personal choice. For example, Your dad wants you to be captain of the football team and maybe go to school to be a douchebag professional like he is?
Or Maybe your mom is wanting to live visions of grandeur, and quite possibly chasing some pipedream that just doesn’t seem to be realistic no matter what possibilities are out there. And due to that, maybe there is some lack of financial and emotional stability.
Anyway, I am not generalizing, but you realize that family has a strong influence on some individuals and that sometimes it gets way out of control. Sometimes it really interferes with your persona and lifestyle, and sometimes it drives you insane.
Sometimes ignoring their influence will end up having them shunning you. Kinda like some folks in my family. My family has come from a long line of “Get out of high school, then have a family and settle mentality.” I am a bit too urban for that. They just cannot compute my love for the finer things in life, Vespa Scooters and such.
I decided to live an Urban lifestyle, where people want to have fun, stay single for a bit be career driven, and enjoy the atmosphere and what’s to live for before hunkering down to a family and settling for a depressing road ahead which I probably wouldn’t enjoy.
Sometimes it is a tough decision to see where to take action. You have to look deep within yourself and what you really want to do with your life. Maybe you really do not need your family to become who you want to be. Maybe just visiting them for the holidays and birthdays and such are ok.
Or maybe you are going to stick with the family ideal and live that lifestyle. To each their own.
But in the case that you have to tell them no, mentally and emotionally prepare yourself for a possible long road of issues, but somehow learn to overcome them, and MOVE ON!!!
With restarting the posts on this blog after a depressing bout of “Getyourshittogetheritius” I have decided to eliminate the thursday product review segment, and replace it with a new, bold approach on self-help and human development.
WE will actually call this segment, “Get Your Shit Together Thursdays.” sounds as entertaining as a Thursday nightclub event party, but we will not hang you over, and you will leave stimulated without the booze trip!
So what is this Mindfuck that kills us all? What is the cause for all of those O Shit?/O RLY? moments that we all have? Why are we walking around, thinking about what ails us, where sometimes, we think the good things are coming, and other times, we think utterly as if we were wasting space on this world.
While watching the Eagles Defense blow through Roethlisberger’s Pocket like a coin through a busted pants pocket, I had a good talk with my cousin over a couple of beers, wondering about why sometimes I feel like I am wasting space.
My cousin brought up a good point by saying “Are your priorities straightened out?” As if I could really answer him, I told him “Not really, but kinda evolving around changes, shifts in social threads, and ever changing times, and weathering them not as good as I really wanted to.”
Then he reinforced as roethlisberger got sacked for an unprecedented 8th time, “Well, if you have your priorities all together, you would weather changes and shifts around you without a problem. These shifts would end up working better in your favor.” He goes on to say that for the longest time priorities were not a big thing in his life, and that he felt a bit misguided and lost in the maze until a few years ago, and looking back, it has really helped him out in the long run.
I was quite taken aback by his words, and thought to myself, “When the fuck am I going to get things together in the priorities department?”
The steps that I need to follow, and maybe you if such situation exists in your life:
1. Assume the world ended tomorrow or you were sickened with a terminal sickness that gave you a few weeks to live. Think about what your contributions are to this world, and what you could of done to make them better.
2. Think also about what you want to get out of life. I am not looking for an instant answer as there are sure to be plenty of things to think from the back of your mind. This will take a day or two, and conjure up what you want to do, rather it is travel the world, raise a family, race a car through the streets of Milan, whatever you want.
3. Assure yourself what you want to do with your life, and plan. Take into account the current scenarios and situations, and see how you can improve your current situation and make them work for you as opposed to working against you. Make sure that you set realisitic goals, timelines, and dreamlines to get where you want to be, in time increments, and certain values realistically.
4. More to come, but those three should get you started in the path of getting your shit together, and put a bullish stance on the crap that seems to get in the way.
